Friday 23 December 2011

PureFilipina - Philippines Chat Site

So I found a Filipina dating site I'd not seen before, so I decided to register and see if was any good.

The site is called PureFilipina. It's just one of the many Filipina dating sites out there. Registration took a couple of minutes. Then I found out I could chat to the Filipinas who were online while I was.

There didn't seem to be as many members on this site as there are on Filipino Cupid or Cherry Blossoms.

One good thing is that the site is pretty cheap. It's a lot cheaper than Filipino Cupid or Filipina Kisses. Obviously it's not as cheap as DateInAsia (which is free!), but I'm not a big fan of the free sites.

So is PureFilipina worth signing up to, or are better sites available?

Tuesday 13 December 2011

DateInAisa

So I've been doing a bit more thinking about DateInAisa. This is one of the Asian dating websites that is actually totally free to use. I guess you don't get something for nothing these days. In fact this is true and not true when it comes to DateInAisa.

DateInAisa is indeed a free site, but it's not that easy to use. Given how many female members the site has, it's quite difficult to find your dream lady on the site. For one thing there aren't many search options - you can basically just search for age and location. For another, members can only upload 1 photo of themselves.

So I guess DateInAisa is a bit of a pot luck dating site really.

One thing that is good about the site is that it's a good place to find women from a much wider range of Aisan countries. I've personally dated countless Chinese women, and I know you guys are also interested in Filipino and Thai women.

Well I've got news for you - there's a world of choice when it comes to oriental dating. Just lately I've been wondering if Vietnamese women are for me. They seem cuter than the Chinese girls on Chinese Love Links, and maybe they're not so demanding on us men either.

And for the record, there are hundreds of Viet girls on DateInAisa. Here's the number I found:

Age Number of Viet girls on DateInAisa
18 0
19 4
20 5
21 9
22 14
23 4
24 13
25 14
26 21
27 25
28 12

How many of these are scammers? Well I'm not sure about this, but they seem more legit than many of the Thai or Filipino profiles I've browsed through on DateInAisa.

Thursday 1 December 2011

Find Asia Love

Find Asia Love is a 100% free Asian dating site. Actually the site is really called Find Love Asia, but many people prefer to call it Find Asia Love. Given that 99% of the female members are from the Philippines, maybe Find Philippines Love is a more appropriate name?

Tuesday 15 November 2011

Asian Love Match

There are quite a few Asian dating websites available, but if you want to check them all out, then there's a new kid on the block!

Asia Love Match is from the people who brought you China Love Match. I haven't used China Love Match as much as I have Chinese Love Links, but it's quite a good site. I met one China Love Match lady on my last visit to China, and I was impressed!

Asia Love Match looks and feels much the same as China Love Match. I loved the fact that I got a complimentary subscription to ALM when I joined CLM!

Tuesday 8 November 2011

Asian Brides of Different Sizes

Here's a quick heads up if you're interested in finding an Asian wife with particular physical attributes...

Whatever type of lady you like, you'll find her in Asia!

Enjoy!

Thursday 4 August 2011

Chinese Dating Sites Guide

If you're interested in finding a Chinese wife or girlfriend then here's a new site about Chinese online dating. If you're considering finding a Chinese wife then you'll need to read up on Chinese culture and dating. Finding a Chinese wife is very rewarding, but many men find that Chinese ladies are much more complicated than Thai or Filipina women. Are Chinese women worth it? I guess that's up to you.

Friday 22 July 2011

How to Maintain a Long Distance Relationship

If you're interested in finding an Asian wife, then you'll have to figure out how to handle long distance relationships. While being knowledgeable about online dating is important for choosing an Asian girlfriend, keeping her is not always easy. Here are 10 tips to help you with the pain of being so far away from your loved one.

Thursday 7 July 2011

ForeignLadies International Dating Site

One of the international dating sites men searching for foreign brides usually come across is ForeignLadies. I must admit that I too first looked at this site when I first thought of the idea of looking for love overseas.

Good things about ForeignLadies include the fact that you can see the ladies' profiles without having to login and register first. So it's a good site if you're window shopping for a foreign bride. Another good thing is that it has a range of ladies from a wide range of countries. So it's a good place if you're not sure if you want a Russian, Asian or even a Latin American bride.

Sadly that's probably the best of the site over with. ForeignLadies is quite an expensive site to use. It's of the letter writing variety, where you have to pay to send a letter to a lady. After I found ForeignLadies I found Chnlove, and I spent over $400 on that site in just a few months. Wow, was I a mug. I could have signed up to Chinese Love Links for an annual membership plan of around $165! And there are enough English speaking ladies on this site that there's no need for a translation letter writing service anyway.

Another kicker for me is that if you search hard enough you can find the same ladies on more than one dating site. I've personally seen ladies from Chnlove on Cherry Blossoms. Do some hunting around and no doubt you'll find the ForeignLadies ladies on other sites.

Having said that, plenty of men do find love on ForeignLadies and go on to marry the foreign lady of their dreams. But just watch the costs of sites like this because I know of men who have spent 1000's of dollars writing to ladies on international dating sites, and that's a big price to pay for finding love overseas.

Tuesday 5 July 2011

What is the QPid Network?

The QPid Network is a network of Asian dating websites popular with men seeking mail order brides from Asia.
The QPid Network has two main sites:
  • Chnlove
  • Thai Matches
The sites used to be a single site but I guess men like me complained so much about Thai women being on a Chinese dating site that the Thai women were shifted off to a separate website. Generally speaking I don't know of any men seeking Chinese brides who would also consider dating a Thai women. So it makes sense to keep the sites separate.

Both Chnlove and Thai Matches are letter writing sites. These sites are free to join, but you have to pay to contact the ladies on the site. The cost of sending or receiving a letter includes a fee to get the letter translated into the lady's native language (i.e. Thai or Mandarin Chinese).

Good things about both sites include the fact that it's one way of getting around the language barrier. The sites are especially popular with men seeking more mature Asian wives, since these ladies are less likely to speak English. Chnlove in particular is great for Chinese mature women.

On the downside, letter writing sites are expensive! Writing letters to Asian ladies can work out much more expensive than using a flat rate Asian dating site such as Asian Euro, Asian Kisses or Chinese Love Links.

What is the Cost of Mail Order Brides?

I've had a good attempt at calculating the cost of finding a mail order bride. A lot of guys want to know what they're getting into financially before they find a foreign bride from Russia or Asia (maybe Latin America too).

You know you can do all the math in the world, but here's the simple truth:
  • Mail order brides are expensive!
I spent a bit of time on an Asian dating forum a couple of years back. The guys on the board often mentioned the figure of $10,000. Having spent a fair amount of time and money on my own search for an Asian wife I'll tend to agree with them. So $10,000 is probably a reasonable figure for finding an Asian mail order bride, getting married and bringing her back to your country. Figure that $10,000 is also reasonable for a Russian bride. Latin brides from Colombia, Costa Rica or other Latin American countries might cost a bit less if you're an American guy who can get reasonably priced flights to that region.

Of course this $10,000 figure only includes expenses incurred in finding a bride. Once she's living with you in your own country there could well be further expenses. Actually, it's ladies we're talking about here, so of course there will be further costs!

How much more a foreign lady will cost you depends on the lady. I've spoken to career ladies, and if I married one of these then they'd be pretty much financially independent. I've also spoken to girls who just dream of being a housewife while the man goes out and earns the money. Your new bride's ability to work will also depend to some extent on her English language ability, and whether she has some skills that transfer well to life in a Western country. Different men like different types of lady, but this is another consideration you need to make when choosing a suitable bride for you.

So mail order brides are expensive, be under no illusions about that. Make sure you really can afford to find that foreign lady, then have enough money to support her after marriage. Money issues are the cause of many relationship issues, so being realistic about it will improve your chances of a successful and long lasting marriage to a beautiful foreign bride.

Friday 10 June 2011

Chinese LoveLinks

So I've been doing a bit more searching on Chinese LoveLinks. There are some great Chinese ladies on this site. The downside is that it's not a good place for the newbie man seeking an Asian bride. The best suggestion I have is to sign up for free membership and take a look around. If you like what you see, then take out the discounted Gold or Platinum yearly subscription.

This is the important bit though - take your time! Spend at least one month just reading the emails and interests you get from Chinese ladies. Give yourself a good idea of what's out there, and the sort of Chinese lady you want.

You'll also start to see patterns emerging in suspicious ladies. Personally I am very suspicious of:

  • New members.
  • Ladies with no photos.
  • Ladies who contact you and tell you their email address straight away.
  • Chinese ladies not living in China.
  • Chinese girls under the age of 25.
  • Ladies with hidden profiles.
  • Ladies from Nanning.
The good news is that this little list probably encompasses the majority of the problem and scammer ladies on the site.

You can also probably add to this list the ladies who have obviously airbrushed photos. These photos look pretty much identical to the professional studio shots that are common on Chnlove. Many of these ladies will be represented by marriage agencies, which have their own particular hazards.

The Chinese LoveLinks ladies I actively seek out are:

  • Those with a sensible age difference to me (no more than 12 years age difference).
  • Professional ladies with good jobs.
  • Ladies who have put their English knowledge as "Good" or better.
  • Ladies who have obviously uploaded their own photos (sometimes poor quality) and have written their own profiles (sometimes in bad English).
  • Ladies who live away from home and who have brothers and sisters.
  • Ladies who have a QQ account so I can chat to them.
  • Ladies who have taken some thought into what to write on their profile, although I avoid those with a long shopping list of requirements in a man.
Does this work? Yes! I have met a number of ladies in person after seeing them on Chinese LoveLinks. Each of them was a great lady in her own way, and there wasn't a scammer amongst them. Sure, not all of them were marriage material, but that's something you just can't tell from a dating site, you really have to meet these ladies in person before you can decide if they're for you.

Tuesday 7 June 2011

Korean Cupid

Here's a new article about Korean Cupid. Korea Cupid is a popular Korean themed Asian dating website. The site is popular with Koreans looking for partners who are from Korea or their local Korean community. The site is also popular with Western men seeking Korean wives. The site may also attract a few men seeking Asian mail order brides, although it's not generally as easy to find a mail order bride from Korea as it is from neighboring China, Thailand or the Philippines.

As to the site itself, Korean Cupid offers free registration for men and women. When you register you can quickly set up your online dating profile, then return to upload photos or add more details about yourself at a later stage. As with most sites you can use the free membership to see if you like some of the other members. If you want to contact other members then you have to take out a subscription. Subscription fees are reasonable, whether you choose Gold or Platinum membership.

As far as finding a Korean wife go, Korea Cupid is worth a look. However, Korean as well as Japanese ladies tend to be quite shy and reserved, so as the man you'll have to do plenty of chasing if you want a relationship with a Korean lady. The good news is that many men think that Korean ladies are some of the best Asian ladies around, so all that chasing is worthwhile. Enjoy your visit to Korean Cupid.

Monday 6 June 2011

Transpacific Marriage Agency

If you're interested in finding a Japanese girlfriend or wife then there aren't quite so many options as there are for the mail order bride type Asian countries (by these I mean Thailand, the Philippines, and to some extent, China). One popular Japanese dating site is Japan Cupid. Although there are plenty of Japanese ladies on this site, Japanese ladies tend to be fairly shy, and not many ladies like the idea of posting their profiles on a site like Japan Cupid.

Another possibility is to use a more introductions based approach. One alternative to Japan Cupid is to use the Transpacific Marriage Agency (TMA). This Japan based company helps Western men look for Japanese wives.

The Transpacific Marriage Agency works more like a dating site rather than a introductions agency. Men and women register, and the women are sent the men profiles, and men are sent the women's profiles. Some of the men and women are also listed on the TMA website.

Be rest assured that Transpacific Marriage Agency is a legitimate business, and plenty of men and women have found love using the service. I've seen some of the ladies on other dating services, so I know they're genuine.

I was interested in finding a Japanese wife, so I joined TMA for a few months. To be honest I'm not sure if it's worth the money really. There are some good ladies on the site. However, the site works by sending old fashioned PDF files of profiles to the members. These have low quality photos, and it's hard to judge a woman by a small thumbnail in a PDF file. I also found other shortcomings, namely that it wasn't always clear where a lady lived. Traveling around Japan is expensive, and it's often better to stick to finding a lady in an area you know. If your Japanese isn't great then venturing outside of central Tokyo, Osaka or Kyoto is pretty difficult as well.

So what's the alternative to the Transpacific Marriage Agency? One good tip I picked up from them is that in the membership pack they give all kinds of information away about how to find Japanese ladies. Sadly you'll really need to be living or working in Japan to use these tips. But in reality if you want a Japanese wife then you'll sort of guess that it's much better to live in Japan anyway. There aren't many Japanese women who are interested in living overseas. Personally I would say that Chinese ladies are a better proposition. Of course Chinese and Japanese cultures are vastly different. But if you're after a beautiful, smart and sophisticated Asian lady, then you might just be stunned at the quality of ladies on Chinese Cupid.

Update: I left TMA as it was largely a waste of money. Quite a few of the women are on Japan Cupid anyway. In fact, Japanese dating was a big waste of time for me. Why bother with Japanese women when there are tens of millions of hot Chinese women desperate to chat to you online?

Friday 3 June 2011

Cherry Blossom Dating Online

If you're looking for an Asian mail order bride then one of the oldest mail order bride businesses is Cherry Blossoms. While the company started off by mailing out printed mail order bride catalogs, the business now has an online dating site which makes choosing Asian women you're interested in much more straightforward.

The Cherry Blossom dating online site has a wide range of ladies from a number of countries. Filipinas from the Philippines are the most numerous. This is closely followed by Thai women. There are also large numbers of Chinese ladies to choose from. Smaller numbers of women from other Asian countries can also be found, so this might be a good place to look for a Malaysia, Vietnamese or Indonesian bride.

Sadly the Cherry Blossom dating site has a few scam ladies and undesirables on the site, but if you follow the policy of never sending money to Asian ladies then you'll avoid most of the bad apples. Incidentally Thai and Filipinas are generally the worst in terms of scamming. It's usually better to concentrate on the older ladies (say over the age of 30) and look for women with full time professional jobs that keep them out of trouble.

One advantage Cherry Blossom dating offers is that it's around the cheapest Asian dating site available. The site operates on a flat rate fee structure, so it's much cheaper to use than pay per contact sites like Chnlove or Asian Beauties. Obviously it costs more than the 100% dating site Date InAsia, but the Blossom site offers a much better search facility as well as chat rooms and other facilities that are missing from Date InAsia.

If you're interested in seeking an Asian mail order bride then it's possible to sign up to Cherry Blossom totally free and have a look at the ladies on offer. Sadly the free membership option is time limited, but with such an affordable monthly subscription fee this shouldn't be too much of an issue.

Tuesday 10 May 2011

Older Men Dating Younger Women

Asian mail order bride type dating sites are especially popular with older men, especially those looking into second time around dating. So what's the story with all the younger ladies on these dating sites? Can older men really date much younger women? Here's a quick guide to older men dating younger women.

First of all the laws of supply and demand govern dating, just like they do many other things in life. The simple math is that there are more women on many Asian dating sites compared to men. So women often have to cast the net wider. Usually this means accepting a husband who is a few years older than themselves.

Older men are generally more interested in Asian dating than younger men. Finding an Asian bride costs a lot of money, which younger men don't always have. It also take a lot of time and effort to find a wife from a foreign country, so few younger men bother. Finally, younger men generally find it easier to find girlfriends in their own country since far fewer girls of their own age are married or already in relationships.

There's also a little of the grass is greener syndrome. Many men hear stories about Russian and Asian brides and think that these ladies would come without the faults that Western women have. While there are some great Russian and Asian women seeking Western husbands, just don't wear your rose tinted spectacles when you're looking into foreign and international dating. I can assure you that there are plenty of Chinese and other foreign ladies who are just as narcissistic, or shopaholics or have other personality disorders that you'd want to avoid when choosing a bride. In fact due to cultural and language issues (not to mention distances involved with long term relationships) it can be even harder to spot a bad potential partner than should you stick to dating women in your own country.

Talking to Asian ladies I know, I've heard plenty of tales of women just marrying Western men for money. Invariably these girls (and they are usually girls in their early to mid-20's) will marry pretty much the first man who comes along. If he's American as well as rich then so much the better. Sometimes these relationships do work. But if the man's money runs out then so will his lady. It's worth remembering that Asian ladies are often very beautiful and age gracefully, so they don't usually have too many problems finding another partner once they're in a Western country. So while it's perfectly acceptable for an older man to date a younger woman, just don't end up being her green card mule.

If this doesn't discourage you from seeking a younger bride then your possibilities are probably to head to Russia, Thailand or the Philippines. Assuming you can get past the legions of scammers, then the Philippines is probably the best place to look for a much younger bride. Sign up to a site like Filipino Cupid and you'll be swamped with attention from 18 and 19 year old girls, whatever your own age. Have fun with these girls, but at the back of your mind just remember that it's really just all about the money.

Beautiful Mail Order Brides - Why Do They Seek Western Husbands?

If you're interested in second time around dating then you might like the idea of finding a wife from overseas. It doesn't usually take a lot of searching on the Internet to find mail order bride themed dating sites. There's plenty of these sites.

Whether you're interested in Russian, Asian, African or, increasingly Latin American brides, you'll usually be surprised at how many ladies there are on some of these sites. For example, the Chnlove Chinese mail order brides site claimes to list over 10,000 Chinese ladies on the site! And the free Asian dating website Date In Asia claims that it has over a million profiles. Sure many of the profiles are men, but it still gives you some idea of just how many Asian women are looking for foreign husbands.

So why do foreign ladies want to find Western husband? A few reasons include:

  • They're looking for money. This is often the number one reason why foreign ladies seek Western husbands, but it's not the only reason.
  • Christian ladies often find it hard to find partners in their own country, so they'll look overseas. This particularly applies to Chinese and Japanese ladies.
  • Divorced and separated ladies always find it more difficult to find love the second time around, as many men prefer to find previously unmarried brides.
  • Likewise, separated, divorced or unmarried ladies with young children often find it hard to find a partner.
  • Many ladies think they'll have a better life for them and their children in a Western country.
  • Some ladies are not considered beautiful by men in their own country, but to Western eyes they appear very pretty.
  • It's increasingly common to see highly educated ladies on foreign dating sites. Russian and Chinese ladies in particular often have a high level of education. Presumably they intimidate men in their own country, who would rather marry a housewife with average intelligence. If you can handle these ladies, they can often make great brides.
  • Ladies who have been seen dating foreign men are often avoided by men in their own country.
Obviously all ladies are different and each have their own reasons for choosing a Western husband. But if you are seeking a foreign bride for marriage then it's a good idea to work out exactly why a specific lady is seeking a foreign husband.

Interested in foreign women for romance and marriage? Find more about mail order brides at The Mail Order Brides Site.

Friday 6 May 2011

Meet Russian Women Free

If you're interested in finding a Russian bride, then where are the best places where you can meet Russian women for free?

Most Russian dating sites offer free trial subscriptions, so this is probably the best way to see if you like the idea of finding a Russian bride. Try Russian Euro, Ukraine Date or Elena's Models as three of the best sites. Be on the lookout for scam ladies on all of these sites though as they often slip through the net.

Free membership plans are great because once you register on the site you can generally use all the site's search facilities and check to see if you find many ladies who you'd be interested in having a relationship with. Generally sites allow you to maintain your free membership plan for as long as you like. Invariably you only need to pay for a subscription once you want to contact some of the ladies on the site.

As for free foreign dating sites, I'm not really a great fan of these. Free sites attract scammers as well as people who aren't really serious about having a long term relationship. On top of this, many of the free Russian dating sites are quite small and don't have that many lady profiles on them. The sites are also often poorly regulated and the sites don't take great care with your personal information. Finally, my biggest gripe with the free dating sites is that they often have very basic search facilties and there are not really much in the way of matchmaking features. While it's perfectly possible to meet some great Russian women on free dating sites, just be aware that it can be some serious needle in haystack business.

By the way, be very wary of sites that advertise that you can meet Russian women for free, as not all 100% free dating sites really are free!

Mail Order Japanese Brides

Many men like the idea of marrying Asian women. So what are your options if you're interested in seeking a mail order Japanese bride?

The first thing to note is that there isn't really any such thing as a Japanese mail order bride anymore. Japan is a very wealthy nation, and most of the women don't need to marry a man in order to have a good standard of living. There's also no particular shortage of good husband material in Japan - the average salaryman earns a decent wage these days.

However, if you're a Western man and you like the idea of finding a Japanese bride then the Internet can come to your assistance. Your first port of call is Japan Cupid. This is a great site for finding marriage minded Japanese ladies. However, I was a bit disappointed with this site. Maybe it was because:

  • I don't live in Japan, and most Japanese ladies don't want to live overseas.
  • I'm not American, and Japanese women tend to be much more interested in American men.
  • Japanese women don't seem to be as enthusiastic as marrying foreign men as Chinese ladies are.
  • I don't speak or write any Japanese.
  • Maybe I didn't put enough effort into contacting ladies - Japanese ladies tend to be quite shy so it's often better for the man to initiate contact with them.
If you don't like the idea of Japan Cupid then there are marriage agencies in Japan who will help you find a Japanese lady seeking a Western man for marriage. Try Meet Japan Lady or the Transpacific Marriage Agency.

Failing that, if you're interested in dating professional Asian ladies then Japan isn't your only choice. You could also try Korean Cupid for South Korean ladies. Or take a look at Chinese Cupid because there are tens of thousands of fantastic ladies on this site. Unless you're particularly attached to Japanese culture or the language, it's invariably better to seek a bride from China than it is from Japan.

Thursday 5 May 2011

Single Foreign Women

If you're interested in dating an exotic beauty, or you're interested in second time around dating, then you might consider dating single foreign women. So how easy is it to find single foreign ladies, and how do you go about meeting them?

The good news is that the world has no shortage of single foreign women looking for marriage. Many women find it hard to find a husband in their own country, particularly if:

  • They are divorced, or their husband has abandoned them and their children.
  • They are Christian in a country where Christianity isn't widespread (China and Japan come to mind here).
  • Men in their own country don't find them attractive (ideas of beauty vary widely between different cultures).
  • They are older than 30 in a country where men like to marry young girls.
  • They are alpha females that men in their own country don't always like, because they may have superior intellect or better jobs than they do.
  • Men in their own countries know they would make terrible wives (ha ha ha, you'll have to learn to avoid this type of foreign woman!)
So the good news is that there's no shortage of single foreign women available. Find them on the wide range of foreign and international dating sites. The bad news is that there are plenty of scammers on dating sites. There are also plenty of women who won't necessarily make good wives. Spotting them is often made complicated by the distance involved in long distance relationships, plus the significant language and cultural barriers. Despite this marriages between American men and foreign ladies tend to have a lower divorce rate than between an American man and woman.

As far as countries go, mail order bride type of wives tend to be found in Asia, Russia and, increasingly, from Latin America. Many men like the idea of finding a mail order bride who is happy to be a housewife. But there are increasing numbers of single professional ladies on foreign dating websites. Often they speak good English, have good careers and would be very insulted if you were to refer to them as being a mail order bride. If you want to find good quality single foreign women then take out a free trial membership of a site like Chinese Love Links, Latin American Cupid or Elena's Models.

Meet Latina Women

There are plenty of Asian dating websites, but what about Latin dating websites? Where can you go if you want to meet Latina women?

Thankfully there are an increasing number of Latin dating websites. More and more Latinas are seeking American or Canadian husbands, so you can set your sights pretty high on one of these dating sites. If you have your heart set on a Colombian girl, then head for a country specific dating site such as Colombian Cupid.

When I was searching for an Asian wife I wasn't 100% sure which country I wanted to look in. So I ended up paying for membership of several different country specific dating sites. If I was going to look for a Latin bride but I wasn't 100% sure which country was best then I would sign up to a site such as Latin American Cupid. This site has tens of thousands of sexy Latinas from all over Central and South America, as well as covering Latinas from Mexico and those already living in the USA and Canada. This site is just what you need for meeting Latina women. I like the fact that all the Cupid Media run sites like Latin American Cupid have some great search facilities, as well as good facilities for recording your favorite ladies. Trust me, if you sign up for Gold or Platinum membership of this site then you'll need some top notch facilities for keeping track of all the Latinas who will be emailing you!

And if you're unsure about the idea of visiting Colombia, Peru or another Central or Latin American country on your own then what about a romantic tour? Companies such as A Foreign Affair offer an increasing number of romantic tours of Central and Latin America. On one of these trips you'll get to meet dozens of beautiful Latinas, with translators on hand to help you out should your Spanish not be that great!

Wednesday 4 May 2011

Russian Mail Order Bride Scams

I'm mostly interested in Asian dating, but sometimes I venture over into the murky depths of Russian online dating.

It's clear to me that Russian mail order bride scams are extremely numerous. In fact increasing numbers of American men are getting so fed up with the scammers that they're abandoning Russia and Eastern Europe altogether. Latin brides are becoming increasingly popular, as are Chinese wives.

So far in my search for a Chinese wife I've been happy that most of the ladies I've talked to on foreign dating sites have been decent ladies. OK, so they might have personality issues or they might be looking for money more than love, but as men we can deal with these issues - they're not a lot different to what we face when seeking a bride in our own country.

In all my reading about Russian scams, it seems pretty much the same as the problems with the Asian dating scene. If you're going to look for a mail order bride in Russia or any other country, then bear these tips in mind:
  • Be wary of sites that charge you each time you send a letter to a lady. They like to make out that foreign ladies are rare, when in fact it's incredibly easy to meet Russian or Asian ladies looking for marriage to a Western man. So just avoid these sites.
  • Russian scammers are usually after money. Only the most brazen ladies directly ask for money. More often, they will tell you a sad story then expect you to offer to send money. Avoiding these scammers isn't that easy - they're numerous on Russian Euro, Ukraine Date and other Russian sites. But while you won't always avoid the scammers, you can avoid getting scammed! Just don't send any girl money - ever! Don't even send her money after you've visited her. A friend of mine might have the right idea - he's dated dozens of foreign ladies, and he NEVER buys them gifts until after marriage! Yes that's tough but it's a surefire way of avoiding all the scammers and most of the gold diggers, and just find a lady who wants to marry you for who you are, not how big your bank balance is.
  • Many scammers aren't Russian women or even women. Increasing numbers of African and Middle Eastern men are signing up to dating sites in order to scam gullible (usually American) people. If you learn some Russian language and culture then you can easily spot the non-Russians that are increasingly infiltrating online dating sites.

Tuesday 3 May 2011

Mail Order Grooms

Mail order brides are always popular with men, especially those interested in second time around dating. But what are the options for women seeking mail order grooms? Can you find marriage minded men the same way as men seek mail order brides?

There are plenty of dating websites where you can find marriage minded men. It's best to avoid those websites though that focus on the mail order brides market. These sites are quite numerous. They are mainly numerous because men usually end up paying more than women to join dating sites, so the mail order bride focussed website is the most profitable. Simple as that.

If you want to find a mail order groom then which countries are best to choose?

Men seeking foreign brides usually head for Eastern Europe or Russia, Asia and, increasingly, to Latin America.

Mail order grooms from Russia or Eastern Europe don't tend to be hugely popular. Life expectancy of men is low in these countries. There is also a shortage of men in many of these countries, so a good quality man will have his pick of some fabulous Russian beauties.

Asian men are increasingly numerous on Asian dating websites. Take a look at Japan Cupid, Korean Cupid or Chinese Cupid. These sites have increasing numbers of men on them. Of course many Chinese men dream of finding rich Western brides, as do so many Chinese brides dream of their prince on a white horse. If you want to find a wealthy Asian man who is fairly westernised then Japan or South Korea are options. Also the wealthy enclaves of Hong Kong and Singapore are worth a look as both have plenty of single eligible professional men. There are plenty of men in both territories who like the idea of finding a Western wife.

Mail Order Filipino Brides

When men start looking for a mail order bride they often choose to look in China, Thailand and the Philippines. What makes Filipino mail order brides so popular, and are they the best choice of Asian bride?

First of all the Filipino bride has a number of advantages for a Western man looking for an Asian bride:

  • Many Filipinos speak good English, and it's generally much more common to find a Filipino English speaker compared to a Chinese or Thai woman.
  • Approximately 10% of Filipinos work overseas. Many Filipinos train in careers that make it easier for them to find work overseas. While not every man wants their new Asian wife to go out and earn a living, not all women are happy to be stay at home housewives.
  • The Philippines is relatively easy to travel to, with regular flights to Manila and Cebu from Hong Kong and other international hubs. English is widely spoken, and it can be a less forbidding place to visit than the smaller Chinese cities.
  • Filipinos are often Catholic, so they are a good choice if you want to find an Asian bride who shares your Christianity.
  • Filipinos marry for life, and divorce is frowned upon. So they can often think about marriage a lot more seriously than Thai or Chinese women do.
  • Finally, there are a huge number of Filipino ladies on Asian dating websites, so if you're looking for a Filipino bride you'll be spoilt for choice.
Find out more about Filipino mail order brides on the Asian dating sites guide.

Thursday 28 April 2011

Cherry Blossoms Mail Order Bride Website

Cherry Blossoms is an online dating service specialising in helping Western men find foreign brides. The company started off as a traditional mail order brides business, with printed catalogs sent through the post. Cherry Blossoms is now know for its popular online dating website.

On the Cherry Blossoms website you can sign up and chat and email foreign ladies. The ladies on Cherry Blossoms are from a wide range of countries. The majority of them are from China, Thailand and the Philippines. In fact, Filipinas are particularly numerous on the site.

So how does the Cherry Blossoms mail order bride website stack up against the competition?

The membership fee is perhaps the most competitively priced of all the Asian dating websites. If you don't like the idea of paying for a dating site then DateInAsia is a free alternative to Cherry Blossoms. The ladies are from the same range of countries, but the search facilities are very basic.

The Cherry Blossoms website has a fairly basic design. I found it didn't always work properly in particular web browsers. I also felt that the site lacked the slickness of Cupid Media sites like Chinese Love Link and Filipino Cupid.

Scammers are a problem on the Cherry Blossoms site. Scam ladies are a particular problem on sites such as this because the ladies can sign up for free. So scammers can effectively sign up faster than they can be identified and removed by the site's moderators. Don't send money to any lady you meet on Cherry Blossoms and you'll avoid most of the usual problems.

One good point of Cherry Blossoms is that it has ladies from a wide range of countries. So if you're not sure which country you want to find a bride from then this could be a good site for you to use. But if you're not sure which country you want to look for an Asian bride in, then you could be overwhelmed with the sheer number of ladies on the Cherry Blossoms mail order bride website. Happy searching!

Best Mail Order Brides

Increasing numbers of men are seeking foreign brides. But which are the best mail order brides you can find?

Personally I don't like to see the term mail order brides. It's a little demeaning and makes it appear that you're buying a wife. For me the best mail order brides are those who don't need to marry for money or a better lifestyle. Personally I think that China is a great place to look for a foreign bride. Modern Chinese cities such as Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Shanghai and Beijing are full of single professional ladies. They often speak English which makes communication with them so much easier. They often have good office based careers, which mean that if you want your new bride to move to your own country then they shouldn't find it too hard to find a job. Finally, they often have a high standard of education. Increasing numbers of Chinese women have degrees from overseas Universities, and I've chatted to plenty of ladies with better careers (and salary!) than my own. I've often been turned down by these ladies. But you know what - that's an excellent sign. It means they're not desparate to marry the first man who comes along, and it gives me a clue that I'm looking at the right type of lady for a long lasting marriage.

My runners up for best mail order brides would be Filipinas. They tend to be extremely friendly and can make loving, devoted wives. If you want a wife who adores you then head to the Philippines. On the downside, I know I'm not particularly religious, so I don't know if that would be a problem should I choose to find a Filipina bride. And Filipina scammers are very numerous on dating sites so it's a bit like sticking your head in a barrel full of snakes. It's sad that the game players make it much harder for honest ladies to find marriage partners on Filipina Heart, DateInAsia and the other Filipino dating sites. One guy I spoke to recently told me he'd chatted to 40 Filipinas on Filipina Heart, and he'd been shocked that all but two of them appeared to be angling for money.

At the end of the day, the best mail order bride is the lady for you. So sign up to some Russian, Latin or Asian dating websites and start looking for your perfect bride.

Wednesday 27 April 2011

Asian Dating Agencies

Online dating isn't the only way to find an Asian wife. Another alternative is to look for Asian dating agencies. These operate more like introduction agencies. They normally charge a fixed fee for their service. The fees are generally higher than they are for dating sites. But dating agencies can often supply additional services, like a translator or personal introductions in their offices.

Asian Dating Agencies in Thailand

Asian dating agencies are most well known in Thailand. A number of agencies provide introduction agency like services in Thailand. These are a viable alternative to online Thai dating. These agencies tend to have a smaller selection of ladies on their books compared to dating sites like Thai Love Lines or Thai Love Links. But the ladies will have been background checked and you can be safe in the knowledge that the ladies actually exist - this isn't something you can always say of dating sites.

What to Look for in Mail Order Bride Catalogs

Traditional mail order bride agencies used to send out printed catalogs for gentlemen to read and look for the foreign bride of their dreams.

Nowadays virtually all mail order bride agencies have moved onto the internet, so their mail order bride catalogs have moved online as well. This makes it easier than ever to search for a foreign bride, although choice can often be bewildering.

The first thing to realise is that there are a lot of women in the world, and before venturing onto a agency website it's a good idea to know what sort of bride you're looking for. Here's an extensive guide to Russian brides and Asian brides.

Knowing whether you want a Russian, Asian or even a Latin American bride helps narrow things down somewhat.

I've been looking for a Chinese bride for a while. Let me tell you that the most popular ladies on Chinese Love Links (presumably in terms of profile views) are exactly the sort of ladies that wouldn't necessarily make good brides. While perusing the catalog, it's usually best to choose a bride closer to your own age - she will love you a lot more, rather than just love your bank balance. In all my trips to Asia I haven't seen that many older Asian men with much younger brides, so take care with that age range.

On most agency sites, a few girls get the most attention from men. Choose one of the overlooked ladies and she'll be overjoyed to get some interest in her profile.

It's also a good idea to look at ladies who genuinely find it harder to find a husband in their own country. These ladies will have a much more legitimate reason for wanting to marry a foreign man. So take a look at divorced ladies, divorced or separated ladies with children, older ladies, ladies not considered beautiful in their own country, Christian ladies, ladies with very good careers and ladies who just aren't very photogenic (but will often look stunning in real life). Hopefully this will allow you to uncover some overlooked gems in mail order bride catalogs.

Tuesday 26 April 2011

Christian Mail Order Brides

Many men, particularly American men, like the idea of finding a mail order bride who shares their religious beliefs. So where is it the best place to find Christian mail order brides?

The obvious place to look is the Philippines. The majority of Filipinas are Christian. They tend to be God fearing, and take their religion very seriously. Of course, the Filipino version of Christianity might differ a little from your own particular type of Christianity, so expect some differences of opinion.

If you want to find a Filipino mail order bride then all Asian dating sites have thousands of Filipnas on them. Sorting out the good and decent ladies from the scammers is a big job though. If you're up to the challenge, then head to DateInAsia, Filipino Cupid or Filipino Kisses.

It's less well known that some other Asian ladies are Christian. I've encountered plenty of Christian ladies in Japan and China. These ladies can often find it hard to find a Christian partner in their own countries, so they will look for a husband overseas. These ladies can often make great Asian brides as they have a legitimate reason for finding it hard to find husbands in their own country. So sign up to Japan Cupid or Chinese Love Links and specify that you only want to meet Christian ladies.

Women Looking for Asian Men

Asian brides are really popular with Western men. But what about Asian men? How can an Asian man find women looking for Asian men?

Many online dating sites target the so-called mail order bride scene. Why? Because men usually have to pay for dating sites, while women (especially if they're young and beautiful) can sit back and wait for dozens of men to contact them. So sites where Asian ladies can sign up for free and men pay to contact them is the most profitable business model for online dating.

Despite this, increasing numbers of Asian men are turning to online dating. There are increasing numbers of Asian targeted dating sites. For example, QQ Personals is gaining huge popularity in China as a way of meeting Chinese singles online.

For Asian men who want to find foreign brides, there are a few websites that it's worth signing up to. The Cupid Media run sites are worth a look. These sites are increasingly popular with Western women seeking Asian men for romance and marriage. Their dating sites include Japan Cupid, Chinese Love Links and Thai Love Links. Needless to say there are far fewer Western women seeking partners from Asia compared to Asian men. So you'll have to put in a lot of effort wooing her!

Other sites worth a look are Asian Kisses and Cherry Blossoms.

Philippines Women Seeking Marriage

Where is the best place to find Philippines women seeking marriage?

Look on any Asian dating site and you'll be swamped with Filipina admirers. But many of these ladies are scammers, or give you all kinds of promises of romance and marriage if you agree to send them some money.

There are some great Filipina ladies around, and they can make loving, devoted wives. Sadly the decent ladies are often outnumbered by the questionable ladies. In fact, I heard from a member of Filipino Cupid (Filipina Heart) that of the 40 or so ladies he talked to, only 2 appeared to be genuine ladies! These are pretty poor odds of finding love in the Philippines!

Throughout Asia the best way to find love is to build a network of contacts. Filipinas are naturally very friendly, and easy to chat to. A good way to find a Philippines woman for marriage is to get working a network of contacts in the Philippines. Start with somebody you can trust, and build up your network. Take it from me, that on my last trip to China every lady I met knew a few other ladies who were looking for husbands.

Another good way of finding a Philippines bride is to spend a few months living in the Philippines. Again, use the opportunity to build up your contacts in the Philippines. Western expats with Filipino wives are a good starting place, but if you live in the Philippines for a while you'll find it very easy to meet people.

Quite a few men like the idea of marrying one of the many Philippines women who work overseas. There are tens of thousands of Filipinas working in Hong Kong or in the Middle East. Something to bear in mind however is that these ladies aren't always any more trustworthy than ladies living in the Philippines. So whichever Filipina dating site you use, take care and never send any girl money.

Love Me Dating

Love Me is one of the many foreign dating sites operated by A Foreign Affair (AFA). The company operates dating sites as well as a range of romance tours. Love Me is most well known for its Russian and Ukrainian brides business. But the company also has an introductions service for Asian and Latin American women.

So are the Love Me dating sites worthwhile?

The first thing to note is that the company operates a range of sites. But you'll usually find the same ladies on all of their sites. Regular users of Love Me's dating sites report that it's cheaper to contact the ladies through ForeignLadies.com than it is to use the Love Me site itself. So this is something to bear in mind.

Love Me mainly operate on the pay per contact or letter writing system. If you pay per contact then you spend a few dollars to request the email address of a lady. This can work out quite expensive compared to using a flat rate dating site like Russian Euro or Chinese Love Links. Letter writing sites are notorious for being expensive. On the upside they do make it easier to communicate with foreign ladies who don't write or speak much English.

One other thing to be wary of on Love Me's dating site is that the profiles of the ladies on the site usually contain professionally shot photos. These have been invariably airbrushed, so before rushing off to visit a beautiful foreign lady be sure to see her on webcam or ask for more natural looking photos first! This particularly applies to Chinese ladies, who are big fans of heavily photoshopped pictures. While Chinese ladies do tend to age very gracefully, some of the photos you see on dating sites are ridiculously airbrushed!

Personally I was a little underwhelmed with Love Me's customer support. For a premium priced product their customer support was pretty average. I enquired about booking on a romance tour but they took so long to reply to my initial enquiry that I went off the idea. Oh well, the great thing was that instead of going on the romance tour I just signed up to another dating site and found my own ladies to meet. I'd guestimate that I saved at least $1000 by booking my own wife finding trip instead of participating on a Love Me romance tour.

Tuesday 19 April 2011

Singapore LoveLink - Singaporean Online Dating

If you're looking for an Asian partner or a partner from Singapore then it's worth looking at the Singapore LoveLink dating site.

Singapore LoveLink is the best website to take a look at if you want to meet Singapore singles. The site can be used whether you're male or female, so it's not like Asian mail order bride themed sites such as Chnlove.

Singapore LoveLink offers a free trial membership. Unlike other dating sites the free membership plan isn't time limited.

Singapore LoveLink is run by Cupid Media, who have a large network of Asian dating sites. The sites have a fairly reasonable membership fee, which is discounted heavily if you sign up for an annual plan.

Alternatives to Singapore LoveLink include Hong Kong Cupid (if you're looking for Asian single professional men and women). If you're interested in finding a Chinese partner then it's also worth looking at Chinese LoveLinks. Chinese LoveLinks is particularly popular with mainland Chinese singles seeking partners in China and overseas. However, there are plenty of Chinese LoveLinks members who are living in Hong Kong, Malaysia and other countries where people of Chinese ethnicity are common.

Friday 11 March 2011

Filipina Kisses - is it a Good Filipino Dating Site?

Filipina Kisses is a wildly popular Filipina dating site. But how does it compare to its competition? Let's have a little look...

First of all Filipina Kisses is very popular. I find this is a little strange as the site design is a total shambles. But on the plus side, the membership fee is fairly reasonable, and it's not one of those dubious letter writing sites. It's also one of the few sites to make it easy to find Filipino ladyboys.

  • DateInAsia is a free Asian dating site. This site has a reasonable reputation amongst men who are looking for Filipinas to date. On the downside, the site has a very basic search facility. It's maybe a good site for the gentleman with a lot of time on his hands.
  • Filipina Heart is a nice site in terms of ease of use and features. This is my preferred Filipina dating site. The downside is that there are only Filipinas on this site, so if you also wanted to chat to Thai girls then you'd have to take out a separate subscription to the ThaiLoveLink sister site of Filipina Heart.
  • Cherry Blossoms is a reasonably priced site. The good thing about this one is that there are also Thai and Chinese ladies on the site, so you can pay a single subscription fee and talk to ladies from a wide range of Asian countries. Cherry Blossoms has a slightly better site design than Filipina Kisses, but that's not saying much really.
Finally the good news is that choose any of these sites and you'll be swamped with interest from cute Filipinas looking for husbands!

Avoiding Terrible Thai Love Links Scams

Here's an article about Thai Love Link scams. Thai Love Links is a popular Thai dating site run by Cupid Media. I've not used Thai Love Links as much as I have its sister sites Japan Cupid, Chinese Cupid and Filipina Heart. But the sites are all pretty much the same.

Sadly Thai dating sites have a bit of a repuation for scam ladies. Finding an honest Thai bride isn't that easy, especially if you use a dating site rather than a marriage agency. My top tips for avoiding the many scammers and dubious ladies on the Cupid Media sites are:

Look for a lady with a proper day job, not one who described her self as being self employed or having a home business.
Avoid ladies with hidden profiles or no any photos in their profile.
Avoid ladies who smoke or who have tattoos.
Avoid ladies who give you their email address in their first email to you then profess their dying love for you.
Be wary of ladies who do things out of the ordinary, like suggest you chat on another site.

Finally the obvious thing is to never send money to anyone you meet on Thai Love Links or any other site.

Wednesday 9 March 2011

More DateInAsia Timewasting

I'm looking for a Chinese wife so recently I signed up to the DateInAsia free Asian dating site. I've had a couple more contacts. Again neither of the ladies were particularly suitable. One didn't have a photo, the other was only 22 and just wanted to chat. I want to find a wife. I have no interest in chatting.

Really I should spend an evening browsing the site in search of Chinese ladies to chat to. But why should I? The site is basically rubbish. There are too many timewaster ladies. There are too many dubious ladies. And the site has very basic facilities for storing your favorites while you think about them.

No, I'm sticking with Chinese Cupid. It cost around $165 to join for a whole year. There are great facilities for saving details of your favorite Chinese ladies. You can even put little notes next to their photos so you can remind yourself of why you liked them, and whether you think they're good wife material.

If you're serious about finding a good quality Asian wife then you'll need these types of logistics. To give you an example I've currently got 39 ladies on my favorites list. That's actually cut down from 58 I had at one stage. And that's actually quite a low number because I'm planning to visit a specific city and I have absolutely no interest in ladies who are emailing me from other parts of China (focus is crucial in this game).

Friday 4 March 2011

How Much Money Does an American Man Need to Get a Chinese Wife?

Interested in Chinese mail order brides but not sure if you can afford it? It's best to do some math before you fall in love with a beautiful Chinese lady on a site like Chinese Kisses.

So let me give you a ballpark figure. Finding a Chinese wife from China will cost around $10,000. This includes:
  • Dating site or marriage agency fees.
  • Travelling to meet her (and factoring in the fact that the first lady you visit might not be a suitable bride for you).
  • Engagement and marriage.
  • Bringing her back to live with you in the states.
Additional costs will of course arise after marriage. Most (all?) Chinese people attach a great importance to money and wealth. If you don't have a lot of cash, then your new bride may not stick around. Make sure you can support her after you get married! This will include at least one trip back to China each year so she can visit her family.

Chinese ladies who don't speak English can find it exceedingly hard to find employment in the USA after marriage. So you'll have to support her for a long time. She might be able to get a cleaning job or something. But a career lady who had a good career back in China won't find this exactly fulfilling.

So if you're a man of modest means, then think carefully about your Chinese wife idea and make sure you really can afford it. As with everything in life, you have to be realistic about your dreams.

Scammers Scammers Everywhere

So I've spent a few hours this morning reading about dating site scams on Romance Scam.com. This is an interesting, and also disturbing site. The main problem is that dating site scammers seem to be operating on just about every dating site there is. If you thought the problem was mainly affecting foreign dating sites (especially mail order bride themed sites) then you'd be wrong. In fact, eHarmony is getting a poor reputation for the number of scammers operating on that site. If you thought eHarmony was safe and secure, then you might want to so some Googling.

This certainly computes with what I've heard from other sources. One thing I've learnt is that both men and women are equally likely to be scammed. Women in particular are very susceptible to West African dating site scammers from Ghana and Nigeria. They'll often pose as good looking American men in order to lure in their victims. There's plenty of evidence that they steal photos from other dating sites, choosing the photos of the best looking men on whichever site they're looking at. So always be careful when uploading photos of yourself to a dating site. Only upload your own photos to sites that employ watermarking of the photos, so they're not so easy to steal.

So whether you're seeking a Russian bride, an Asian bride or a partner from your own town, be vigilant! The good news is that with experience you can learn to spot the majority of the scammers, especially the money scammers. But if you're contemplating online dating, then you really need to read, read and read until you know how to spot the scammers.

Thursday 24 February 2011

DateInAsia - First Impressions

So I signed up to DateInAsia yesterday. DateInAsia is a 100% free Asian dating site. There are many free Asian dating sites, but DateInAsia is by far the most popular. The site claims to have over one million members. How many are active members is not known however.

First impressions were quite favourable. As a security check when you sign up your email address is verified. You also have to supply a mobile phone number. The site then sends out a SMS message to your mobile phone so that the site can verify that you're not setting up a duplicate profile or anything. Does this prevent scammers from using the site? It's probably not hugely effective given that a SIM card is pretty cheap. A professional scammer won't be deterred either - they'll simply add the mobile phone to their expenses of running their business. One cheeky tactic of many scammers is to ask their male victims for money so they can buy a mobile phone. So effectively scam victim #1 is paying the scammer to set up their fake profile so that they can scam victim #2.

So far so good. But unfortunately my impressions of DateInAsia went downhill after that. The site is very basic. I mean VERY basic. There are minimal search facilities. And there is nothing like the My Matches feature of sites like Chinese Love Links. The search facility is stupendously basic. You can really only search on location and age. Want to find a Chinese lady who speaks Japanese and wears glasses? Don't bother with DateInAsia, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. But finding her on Chinese Love Links would be a piece of cake.

But for me the killer problem with DateInAsia has been the lack of interest in my profile. I've booked my trip to Asia. I'm not one of the majority of male members of the site who has no intention of ever actually visiting the ladies. I'm compiling my list of ladies to visit. Yet the only thing on the site is tumbleweed. By comparison I get 3-4 messages a day on Chinese Love Links. And on Filipina Cupid I had to hide my profile as I was swamped with admirers, and that was just on the free membership plan!

So DateInAsia is pretty much a waste of time unless you have time on your hands. A lot of time!

Wednesday 23 February 2011

Chinese Dating Site Wars and Funny Goings Ons...

So I started the Asian Dating Sites Guide back in August 2010. I'd had a terrible time with my Chinese lady, but that's another story altogether. What upset me just as much was that I really felt like I was being taken for a ride on the Chinese dating site I was using (Chnlove). I was paying a lot of money to send emails to and from ladies. I kept getting contacted by ladies way younger than I wanted to meet. Yes this happens on all dating sites but when you have to pay over $5 a time to email them it's obviously a trap to lure you into wasting your hard earned cash.

The Asian Dating Sites Guide is starting to get some interesting feedback from dating site members. Remember folks, it's us MEN who pay for online dating - most sites allow ladies to join free of charge. So it's us MEN who should be setting the agenda here.

So recently I got a really long comment on the site and decided to publish it here. It's an interesting read for anyone thinking of using an Asian dating site. Sadly I've heard this story time and time again.

Interestingly, within 24 hours of publishing the comment, somebody has lept to Chnlove's defence. Is it Chnlove defending their own site? I've no easy way of telling. The comment was posted from a network in the US. But the English looks Chinese-like. Other dating review sites have a long history of seeing positive and negative comments, so nothing would surprise me.

So here's the honest truth about Chnlove. I met a lady on the site. She was real. I visited her in China. She was great. Our relationship did not work out. No fault of Chnlove - it happens. But I spent hundreds of dollars on that site. I could have joined Chinese Love Links or Cherry Blossoms for around $150 for an annual membership. And for that I could have chatted to hundreds or even thousands of women. I could even have joined DateInAsia and chatted to Chinese girls for free. Sure there are scammers on these sites. But chat to enough ladies and you'll easily be able to sort them into different categories of lady. On Chinese Love Links I see the same types of lady time and time again. Likely scammer. Narcissist. Time waster. Girl looking for Mr 100%. Green card seeker. Blah blah blah.

To be fair, I was also impressed with Chnlove support. They were always quick to respond to my questions. The problem lies in China itself. The marriage agencies that Chnlove relies on to supply the lady profiles don't have a good reputation. There is abundant proof of blatant dishonest activity going on. Yet Chnlove appear to take no action against the agencies. The problem is that it's not really in their interests to do so. The more letters an agency sends through Chnlove, the more money that Chnlove make. Simple as that. So don't expect to see anything change anytime soon.

Anyway, if you don't like Chnlove, vote with your feet. Use one of the other Asian dating sites.

Tuesday 22 February 2011

How Good is Asiandating.com?

Asian Dating (sometimes known as Asian Euro) is a popular Asian dating website. The site has tens of thousands of Asian singles registered with it. The site is most popular with men seeking Asian mail order brides. But it's also a site worth using if you're a Western lady seeking an Asian husband.

AsianDating.com is generally a good dating site. The search facilites are excellent, and there are plenty of ladies to chat to. The site is technologically more advanced than its competitors such as Cherry Blossoms.

The best thing about AsianDating.com is that for a single membership fee you can chat to ladies from a range of different Asian countries. Not sure if you want an Asian wife from Thailand, China or the Philippines? No problem - you can chat to them all on AsianDating.com.

The best thing about AsianDating.com is also the worst thing. If you're specifically looking for a wife from a particular country then there won't be such a great selection of ladies on AsianDating.com as compared to a country specific dating site. So if you're looking for a Filipina wife you're better off on Filipino Heart or Filipina Kisses.

So if you're looking for an Asian bride then sign up for a free membership plan at AsianDating.com and see if you like the idea of finding an Asian wife.

Problems With Expensive Letter Writing Dating Sites

Here's an interesting submission to the Asian Dating Sites Guide. A guy has got some good evidence for suspicious activities going on in a popular Chinese mail order brides type of dating site.

These sorts of problems occur quite often with Russian dating sites as well. Typical problems are:

You have to pay for a translator, even when you're talking with a lady who speaks good English
If you're in a relationship with a lady, then she's rarely taken off the site. Meaning that other men are wasting their money writing to her, or you're wasting money on a lady who won't commit.
The lady isn't always aware of letters you're writing to her, so you're basically paying for the translator to send you back a standard response that takes 5 seconds to send.

So what's the solution? Sites like Russian Euro or Asian Euro allow you to chat to as many ladies as you like for one monthly or annual fee. I joined Chinese Cupid recently and it cost just $165 for the entire year. I've exchanged emails with at least 20 ladies. Many of them can write very good English.

It's a lot harder to communicate with ladies who don't know much English. But maybe you're better off hiring your own trusted translator to write you the occasional letter when it's important to get your facts right. And remember that without a translator you're forced to learn her language, and this is a great way to appreciate Russian or Asian culture. Trust me - a lady will think you're wonderful if you attempt to learn a language like Chinese, Thai or Russian!

Wednesday 16 February 2011

Are There Korean Dating Sites?

If you want to look for a Korean wife then there are two places to look:

Korean Cupid is a Korean dating site. You'll find plenty of Korean men and women on this site. There are plenty of Korean ladies who are interested in dating Western men. It may not be that easy to find a Korean wife though. There is no shortage of men in Korea, so Korean ladies have a lot of very eligible men to choose from! Korean ladies are reckoned to be the best Asian ladies to marry, so they have no shortage of suitors. Korean culture is also a lot different to Western culture. If you want to have some success dating a Korean girl then you'll need to understand her culture. Women are mysterious creatures at time, and so by wanting to date a Korean woman you're really making things hard for yourself.

Many countries like the USA, Canada, Japan and the UK have significant Korean communities, so it may be good to date a Korean from these communities. You might find Koreans in your local area by signing up to Asian singles sites that are more focussed on dating in your own country, rather than the international dating sites.

Finally check out Japanese Cupid - there are many Korean ladies in Japan. They can sometimes find it hard to find Japanese husbands since they're not considered fully Japanese.

How to Find Thai Mature Ladies

This is another question many Western men ask when they're interested in finding a Thai wife. Although there are many pretty young Thai girls on Thai dating sites, if you're an older man you're usually better off choosing a mature Thai lady closer to your own age.
The best Thai dating site is probably ThaiLoveLink. Sign up for full membership and you'll be swamped with interest from Thai ladies. This site tends to attract educated ladies who have a computer at home or in the office. There are some very good ladies on this site, particularly if you like more intelliegent "alpha female" type Asian ladies.
Many older Thai ladies don't have computer skills or English language knowledge however so they're unable to sign themselves up to dating sites. These ladies either ask a friend to put them on the site or they approach a Thai marriage agency. Mature ladies can be found on a site like Foreign Ladies or Thai Matches. These sites translate your letters into Thai so the lady can read your correspondence. Although convenient this can be an expensive way of conducting a relationship.

Many mature Thai ladies also prefer to sign up to a marriage agency like Anglo Thai Introductions or Thai Professional. These agencies offer a fixed fee introductions service, and they're worth considering if your finances are limited.

By the way, Thai ladies are lovely, but it's also worth considering mature Chinese women. Mature Chinese women are often incredibly hot! Trust me - I've been to China four times, and I've seen them with my own eyes!!!

Are Chinese Women Better than Thai Women?

Think of mail order brides and most people will think of Russia or Thailand. Thai brides are still pretty much the most popular Asian brides for foreign men. But on Asian dating sites such as Cherry Blossoms there are probably as many Chinese ladies as there are Thai women.

So in general, and this is what I've learned from using the various Asian dating sites...
  • Thai ladies are more likely to be scammers - most of them learn scamming techniques from working in Thailand's vast entertainment industry.
  • Chinese ladies on dating sites tend to be highly educated. It's not uncommon to see ladies with degrees, masters degrees and even an MBA or two. Mail order brides they are not! If you want an alpha female Asian wife, Chinese ladies are a better choice. Having said this, it's increasingly common to see young educated women on ThaiLoveLink and other sites.
  • Chinese ladies tend to be quite confident and aren't a good choice if you want a shy and submissive type of Asian wife.
  • China can be more difficult to visit than Thailand. You usually need a visa. Transport is complicated and frequently crowded. And the language and culture can be baffling.
  • Chinese people have very different beliefs about certain aspects of life, with childbirth being one particular can of worms. If you want lots of babies with your Asian wife then you might find it easier to marry a Thai or Filipina girl.
  • Chinese ladies can be exceptionally beautiful. I'm not going to get dragged into a "which ladies are the most beautiful" type of argument, but having been one of the few Western men to visit central China I have one word to say - WOW!
Ultimately the best thing to do is to sign up to an Asian dating site and see for yourself which ladies you think are best.

Monday 14 February 2011

Finding Love on Chinese LoveLinks

So I'm now into the second month of my Platinum membership of Chinese LoveLinks. I am starting to really like this site.

My head is spinning from speaking to so many girls on the site. One tip I have is to focus on a specific area of China. The country is so vast, and the people so diverse that you need to limit your options somewhat. Although China has opened up to the outside world, as a Westerner you'll still find it quite difficult to travel around the different cities. Buying train tickets is quite complex if you don't speak Chinese. What's often more frustrating is that China has such a vast population that trains and buses are frequently full, and finding tickets at certain times of the year can be very difficult indeed.

I am currently looking for Chinese ladies to visit in one of the largest cities in China. The city is one of the wealthier coastal cities. Few ladies I've spoke to are actually from this city, they are largely economic migrants.

It was announced today that China officially overtook Japan to become the world's 2nd largest economy. I am not surprised. People associate Asian ladies with poor mail order brides from farming communities. But the Chinese LoveLinks ladies I have spoken to have been overwhelmingly in the alpha female category. Most have office jobs that pay a decent wage. Some speak very good English. Sure, many of them have to share apartments with friends, but this city is expensive. It was much the same when I worked in London - an apartment of my own was way out of my price range.

I am still not entirely sure that I like the idea of an alpha female wife. Few men actively seek a lady who has greater earning potential than he does. But the reassurring thing about these top ladies is that they're usually marrying for the right reasons. They have good jobs. Often their families are wealthy. They don't need our money, or our Western passports.

So if you're intrigued by the possibility of finding a Chinese wife, then sign up for a free membership of Chinese LoveLinks and see if you like the idea of finding a Chinese wife of your own.

Mail Order Brides from the Philippines

When men decide to find a mail order bride they tend to automatically think of Thailand. But is Thailand the best place to find an Asian wife?
It's possible that many men are overlooking Philippines mail order brides? Filipinas have a number of advantages:
  • Being mostly god-fearing Christians, they tend to treat marriage more seriously than Thai or Chinese ladies.
  • There are many Filipinas that can speak and write good English. You'll find loads of them on dating sites like Filipino Cupid.
  • They often work overseas, so Filipinas are more used to leaving their families and living in distant lands.
  • Filipinas are a lot of fun, and tend to be less demanding than other Asian ladies such as Chinese women.
On the downside there are plenty of Filipina dating site scammers on many of the Asian dating websites. But never send anyone money and you yourself will be unlikely to end up the victim of such a scam. As you get more experienced at Filipina online dating you'll also learn how to recognise the scammers from the honest ladies.

So sign up to some Asian dating sites and see what you're missing.

Wednesday 9 February 2011

Let's Login To Chnlove and See How Much This Chinese Dating Site Costs!

I've been looking for a Chinese wife for a while. I'm not totally convinced a Chinese wife for me, but that's another story. Fortunately because of my age I am in no hurry to get married. Which is just as well because if you rush into a marriage with any lady, you might end up making a big mistake.

Talking of big mistakes, my first one was to sign up to Chnlove. Man, this Chinese dating site is seriously expensive! Here's an article I've titled Chnlove Login: what to expect when you login to Chnlove. I've run a cost comparison of the two big Chinese dating sites: Chinese Love Links and Chnlove. There's no fake reviewing going on here like you'll see on many other Asian dating site guides, this article is based on my real and genuine membership experiences of each site.

Have you been ripped off by an Asian dating site? Many newbies are - it's how sites like Chnlove make their money. Comments or suggestions - add them below and help other guys avoid expensive Asian dating mistakes.

Thursday 3 February 2011

Russian Brides - An Alternative to Asian Brides?

So I've been doing a bit of sightseeing of Russian dating sites. So far I'm not impressed by what I've seen (well apart from the ladies in thongs, which is great!).

As far as Russian online dating goes, I'm particularly worried about sites such as City of Brides, Army of Brides and Hot Russian Brides. These sites are pretty expensive. What's more, if you do a little bit of digging you can find plenty of stories of men being ripped off or plagued by scammers met through these types of sites.

It's all horribly familiar to me. I used the Chnlove Asian dating website for a while. The site cost me a lot of money - around $400 in 6 months as it happens. I was never entirely sure whether the ladies I was writing to actually existed. To be fair I did meet a really great girl through the site. But if you do some reading about Chnlove then you get the familiar stories - fake ladies, scam ladies, in fact it's almost exactly the same as what you can read about with Russian ladies.

I'm now using Chinese Love Links. I'm impressed with this site. There are some lovely ladies on this site. Mail order brides these are not. The other day I found a Chinese woman on there with an MBA. How many MBA's are there on Plenty of Fish?

If you're looking for a Russian bride then cut out all the expensive rip off sites and try Russian Euro. The flat rate fee means you can't get ripped off by pay per minute video chat sites or have to pay $5 to read an email. All the Cupid Media sites tend to attract a much better class of lady as well. She's usually fairly well educated, and will have some sort of access to a computer. Sure there are scammers at work on these sites, but don't send money to anyone and you'll be OK. With time you'll get to spot the scammers anyway - I find that none of them are particularly imaginative and most of them copy each other's money making schemes.

Monday 31 January 2011

Chinese Love Links - First Impressions

So I've signed up for Platinum membership of Chinese Love Links. This is a great Chinese dating site, and I really wished I'd used it in 2009 instead of Chnlove.

Chinese Love Links has a flat rate fee (around $160 for an annual subscription). On Chnlove I had to pay around $5 each time I sent a Chinese lady an email. This paid for translation costs, but this was a bit of a sham as some of the ladies could write English anyway.

I've been pretty much swamped with admirers on Chinese Love Links. Unlike Chnlove, the majority of the ladies are someone I might be interested in. The only timewasters have been:

  • A few ladies with hidden profiles. They say they're hiding from creeps and jerks, but I worry they might be scammers.
  • Nanning ladies - sorry but I would avoid any ladies from Nanning, as there seem to be a lot of scammers from this city.
  • Young girls. I've had a few 22 year olds contact me, and the age difference is pushing it a bit.
  • Location, location, location. Not many ladies are reading that I only want to meet ladies in a particular Province. Grrrr. They are very lovely, but China is too vast to visit ladies in 5 different cities on one trip.
I am impressed with the quality of the lady on Chinese Love Links. There are many beautiful ladies on this site. Chinese ladies tend not to smoke or drink alcohol, and when they go out in the sun they take a sun umbrella with them. It really does make a difference! Apart from being beautiful, these ladies are well educated, and many have really good jobs and careers. Mail order brides these are not.

Many of the Chinese Love Links ladies speak and write pretty good English. Thankfully this time I can write basic Chinese, so that is something that really impresses them.

Bizarrely, the two ladies I have spent most time talking to are both Sichuan girls (despite living in one of the coastal cities). I have written it before and I'll mention it again - the Sichuan lady is the beautiful lady. I'm getting good at picking them out on Chinese dating sites. If beauty is your top priority then set your search for a city such as Chongqing, Chengdu or one of the cities bordering the Sichuan region (like Changsha). P.S. Sichuan food is also top notch.

So if you're thinking of finding a beautiful Asian wife, then give Chinese Love Links a try.

Japan Cupid - It's Difficult to Find a Japanese Wife Here!

So I've been registered with the Japan Cupid Japanese dating site for a few weeks now, and I've not had much luck so far. I have only been contacted by a few of ladies, and one of them was most likely a scammer. Another was 9 years older than the maximum age range I'd specified. I hate this - dating sites can be a real waste of time when people don't bother to read your requirements.

So what's up with Japanese ladies?

I have a few problems with Japan Cupid:
  • Japanese ladies are shy, and they don't seem to like making the first move.
  • Many ladies haven't uploaded photos, which means they're pretty much wasting their time. I mean, come on girls, do you seriously think a man will be interested in a lady with no photos?
  • I'm not American. Asian ladies love American men, but the love is strongest in Japan.
Beyond this though, I think that many Japanese ladies are really making a half hearted attempt at finding love online, or they've got the Western disease of looking for Mr 100%. I know a Chinese girl who is marrying an American man. Let me tell you that she spent all day, every day on Cherry Blossoms looking for a husband. She was dedicated, and it paid off. Many Filipinas are even more determined - a Filipina friend befriended me on Facebook, then befriended my richest friend! You go girl!!!!

In the UK there's a TV show here a comedian called Justin Lee Collins travels to Japan to investigate Japanese culture. I'm not his biggest fan, but I enjoyed the programme. The first episode started off looking at the gothic lolita girls in Harajuku. So far nothing different from all the other TV shows about Japan. But then he investigated some less well known aspects of Japan, like life-like female dolls that men can buy for some female company. And there was a great insight into Shinjuku's host bars, where women can pay large sums of money to drink and smoke with cute good looking men. He also attended a class where Japanese people can learn how to date members of the opposite sex.

The upshot of this show (as well as Japan's plunging birthrate) seems to be that Japanese people just seem to have gone off the idea of getting married and having kids. It seems pretty difficult for Japanese people to find love in Japan, so for us foreigners maybe it is an impossible task.

By contrast, I signed up to the Filipina dating site Filipina Heart and I was swamped with interest. Wow, I had to hide my profile, as I was getting more attention than I could handle. I've also had a lot of interest on Chinese Love Links. So it looks like my next trip to Asia will be to China. There are some very high quality ladies on Chinese Love Links, but that's the topic for future blog post.

Thursday 27 January 2011

Is Your Filipina Girlfriend Really 18 Or Over?

I've been doing some reading about the murkier side of Filipina dating. And there are some disturbing aspects that you need to be aware of before you start chatting to Filipinas online.

One worrying aspect of Filipina dating is that there are plenty of stories of men innocently dating girls who are several years younger than what they claim to be. Are these stories true? Let's do some investigating...

So are there really underage Filipinas looking for Western men online? Today I had a look on Filipina Match.com. It's a dating website aimed largely at the Filipina/Western man dating scene. Without too much searching I managed to find two 17 year old Filipinas on the site.

There are many other Filipina dating sites, and it's more difficult to gauge whether there are underage girls on them. For one thing a lot of sites only allow you to enter a minimum age of 18. Some sites may prevent a date of birth being entered that would mean the girl is younger than 18. But there's usually nothing to stop a 15 or 16 year old girl selecting her age as 18.

Some sites allow members to submit photographic ID as evidence of their identity and age. It's best to only use high quality dating sites such as these. However, on Filipina Cupid there aren't that many Filipinas who have verified their identities or date of birth. Even if they did, it's easy to get round this check. Many Filipinas come from large families, and they normally have a few sisters. It would be easy enough to borrow their older sister's ID, and it would take a very keen eye to spot the difference between two Filipina sisters.

So yes, there are underage girls on some Filipina dating sites. Before you get too involved with a Filipina, make absolutely certain that she's 18 or over. This is especially important if you plan on visiting her in the Philippines. A common way to scam Western men is to set them up with underage girls, then demand several thousand dollars in order to avoid the police being called. Of course the police are often in on it, so it's a lose-lose situation for the man.

Of course, dating a very young girl is setting you up for all kinds of other potential problems. If you're a Western man looking for a Filipina bride then it's best to stick to the girls who are at least 25. If you yourself are younger than 30 then it's a far better idea to look for a girlfriend in your own country, or to spend time in Asia so you can meet Asian girls in person.

Tuesday 25 January 2011

First Impressions of Chinese Cupid

So yesterday I signed up for full membership of Chinese Cupid. I've been a free member for a while, but it's time to start contacting some ladies to visit in China later in the year.

I like the Cupid Media sites. They are much cheaper than the pay per contact sites. In 2009 I was burned badly on Chnlove. I ended up spending over $400 on that site in less than 6 months. Yes I met a great lady though the site, and visiting her in China was fantastic. But $400 is still a lot of money. By comparison I've just paid around $165 for an annual Platinum membership of Chinese Cupid.

There are some great ladies on Chinese Cupid. You can tell that Asia is booming as we're rapidly moving out of mail order bride territory here. The ladies I've seen have great jobs, dress well and are very well educated. This site really does blow the poor uneducated farm girl mail order bride perception out of the window. It won't belong before Asia overtakes America and Western Europe as the hub of global power.

Anyway, back to Chinese Cupid. What's good about Chinese Cupid is that many of the ladies speak and write good English. If you're new to online dating or haven't been to Asia many times then it's much easier to stick to talking to these girls. Thankfully due to the excellent search facilities on the site it's possible to specify that you only want to search for ladies with good English skills (you can actually search on other languages as well). You can also write to them in Chinese - and I'll tell you that this will really impress them!

Any yes, on Chinese Cupid you can talk to as many ladies as you want, which is much better than Chnlove. A lot of the ladies have also posted natural photos of themselves. Obviously some ladies post rubbish photos but not every girl in China is a computer geek with ninja photo uploading skills.

Japan Cupid Shy Ladies

Japanese ladies have a reputation for being a little shy, and a little reserved. But I've noticed that many of the ladies contacting me on the Japan Cupid dating site haven't even uploaded a photo of themselves.

So what's going on? Japan is of course one of the wealthiest nations on the planet, and it's difficult to imagine many ladies not owning a digital camera or mobile phone with photo uploading features. Maybe Japanese ladies are just to shy to post their photos. I know that Japanese ladies often prefer to use an introduction agency rather than a publically visible dating site.

Another possibility is that they don't want anyone to know that they're looking for a foreign husband. I get the impression that having a foreign husband isn't such a status symbol in Japan as it is in China. Chinese people tend to be much more wealth and money orientated, and to many Chinese ladies what is a better sign of wealth than a Western husband on their arm? I've also found that Chinese ladies tend to be a lot more confident than Japanese ladies. Chinese ladies usually love to get their photograph taken, so when they come to register for a site like Cherry Blossoms or Chinese Love Links then they have no problem finding photos of themselves.

Of course there is a darker explanation, and that is that photo-less ladies on Japan Cupid are simply scam ladies. Whatever they are, I'm steering well clear of them, and I suggest you be wary as well.

Friday 21 January 2011

3 Ways of Finding a Japanese Girlfriend

Japan is a fantastic country. I know - I've visited Japan four times.

Many men like the idea of getting a Japanese girlfriend. Here's three ways of finding a Japanese girlfriend:
  1. Live in Japan. This is the best way to get a Japanese girlfriend. Live in Japan and you'll have your pick of beautiful Japanese ladies. Many Japanese ladies are curious about Western men, and having a Western boyfriend is often on their list of things to do. Just bear in mind that just because a Japanese girl wants a Western boyfriend, it doesn't necessarily mean she wants a Western husband. If you're young and educated then you'll find it fairly easy to find an English language teaching job in Japan. Another option is to work for a multinational corporation with offices in Tokyo. In order to do this you'll usually have to work in a field such as IT or finance, and have at least a basic knowledge of the Japanese language.
  2. Sign up to Japanese Cupid. Japanese Cupid is probably the best Japanese dating site for Western men looking for Japanese girlfriends. The site is user-friendly and has some great features. There are plenty of female members on the site. On the downside, finding a Japanese girlfriend is much more difficult than finding a girlfriend from an Asian country such as Thailand or the Philippines.
  3. Try a Japanese introduction agency. Japanese ladies tend to be quite shy, and many of them on dating sites are too shy to even upload photos of themselves. Introduction agencies offer a more discreet service. There are a few introduction agencies that offer to match Japanese ladies with Western men. Just bear in mind that you usually have to travel to Japan in order to meet the ladies you're introduced to through the agency, and that costs money.