Friday 22 July 2011

How to Maintain a Long Distance Relationship

If you're interested in finding an Asian wife, then you'll have to figure out how to handle long distance relationships. While being knowledgeable about online dating is important for choosing an Asian girlfriend, keeping her is not always easy. Here are 10 tips to help you with the pain of being so far away from your loved one.

Thursday 7 July 2011

ForeignLadies International Dating Site

One of the international dating sites men searching for foreign brides usually come across is ForeignLadies. I must admit that I too first looked at this site when I first thought of the idea of looking for love overseas.

Good things about ForeignLadies include the fact that you can see the ladies' profiles without having to login and register first. So it's a good site if you're window shopping for a foreign bride. Another good thing is that it has a range of ladies from a wide range of countries. So it's a good place if you're not sure if you want a Russian, Asian or even a Latin American bride.

Sadly that's probably the best of the site over with. ForeignLadies is quite an expensive site to use. It's of the letter writing variety, where you have to pay to send a letter to a lady. After I found ForeignLadies I found Chnlove, and I spent over $400 on that site in just a few months. Wow, was I a mug. I could have signed up to Chinese Love Links for an annual membership plan of around $165! And there are enough English speaking ladies on this site that there's no need for a translation letter writing service anyway.

Another kicker for me is that if you search hard enough you can find the same ladies on more than one dating site. I've personally seen ladies from Chnlove on Cherry Blossoms. Do some hunting around and no doubt you'll find the ForeignLadies ladies on other sites.

Having said that, plenty of men do find love on ForeignLadies and go on to marry the foreign lady of their dreams. But just watch the costs of sites like this because I know of men who have spent 1000's of dollars writing to ladies on international dating sites, and that's a big price to pay for finding love overseas.

Tuesday 5 July 2011

What is the QPid Network?

The QPid Network is a network of Asian dating websites popular with men seeking mail order brides from Asia.
The QPid Network has two main sites:
  • Chnlove
  • Thai Matches
The sites used to be a single site but I guess men like me complained so much about Thai women being on a Chinese dating site that the Thai women were shifted off to a separate website. Generally speaking I don't know of any men seeking Chinese brides who would also consider dating a Thai women. So it makes sense to keep the sites separate.

Both Chnlove and Thai Matches are letter writing sites. These sites are free to join, but you have to pay to contact the ladies on the site. The cost of sending or receiving a letter includes a fee to get the letter translated into the lady's native language (i.e. Thai or Mandarin Chinese).

Good things about both sites include the fact that it's one way of getting around the language barrier. The sites are especially popular with men seeking more mature Asian wives, since these ladies are less likely to speak English. Chnlove in particular is great for Chinese mature women.

On the downside, letter writing sites are expensive! Writing letters to Asian ladies can work out much more expensive than using a flat rate Asian dating site such as Asian Euro, Asian Kisses or Chinese Love Links.

What is the Cost of Mail Order Brides?

I've had a good attempt at calculating the cost of finding a mail order bride. A lot of guys want to know what they're getting into financially before they find a foreign bride from Russia or Asia (maybe Latin America too).

You know you can do all the math in the world, but here's the simple truth:
  • Mail order brides are expensive!
I spent a bit of time on an Asian dating forum a couple of years back. The guys on the board often mentioned the figure of $10,000. Having spent a fair amount of time and money on my own search for an Asian wife I'll tend to agree with them. So $10,000 is probably a reasonable figure for finding an Asian mail order bride, getting married and bringing her back to your country. Figure that $10,000 is also reasonable for a Russian bride. Latin brides from Colombia, Costa Rica or other Latin American countries might cost a bit less if you're an American guy who can get reasonably priced flights to that region.

Of course this $10,000 figure only includes expenses incurred in finding a bride. Once she's living with you in your own country there could well be further expenses. Actually, it's ladies we're talking about here, so of course there will be further costs!

How much more a foreign lady will cost you depends on the lady. I've spoken to career ladies, and if I married one of these then they'd be pretty much financially independent. I've also spoken to girls who just dream of being a housewife while the man goes out and earns the money. Your new bride's ability to work will also depend to some extent on her English language ability, and whether she has some skills that transfer well to life in a Western country. Different men like different types of lady, but this is another consideration you need to make when choosing a suitable bride for you.

So mail order brides are expensive, be under no illusions about that. Make sure you really can afford to find that foreign lady, then have enough money to support her after marriage. Money issues are the cause of many relationship issues, so being realistic about it will improve your chances of a successful and long lasting marriage to a beautiful foreign bride.