Tuesday 10 May 2011

Older Men Dating Younger Women

Asian mail order bride type dating sites are especially popular with older men, especially those looking into second time around dating. So what's the story with all the younger ladies on these dating sites? Can older men really date much younger women? Here's a quick guide to older men dating younger women.

First of all the laws of supply and demand govern dating, just like they do many other things in life. The simple math is that there are more women on many Asian dating sites compared to men. So women often have to cast the net wider. Usually this means accepting a husband who is a few years older than themselves.

Older men are generally more interested in Asian dating than younger men. Finding an Asian bride costs a lot of money, which younger men don't always have. It also take a lot of time and effort to find a wife from a foreign country, so few younger men bother. Finally, younger men generally find it easier to find girlfriends in their own country since far fewer girls of their own age are married or already in relationships.

There's also a little of the grass is greener syndrome. Many men hear stories about Russian and Asian brides and think that these ladies would come without the faults that Western women have. While there are some great Russian and Asian women seeking Western husbands, just don't wear your rose tinted spectacles when you're looking into foreign and international dating. I can assure you that there are plenty of Chinese and other foreign ladies who are just as narcissistic, or shopaholics or have other personality disorders that you'd want to avoid when choosing a bride. In fact due to cultural and language issues (not to mention distances involved with long term relationships) it can be even harder to spot a bad potential partner than should you stick to dating women in your own country.

Talking to Asian ladies I know, I've heard plenty of tales of women just marrying Western men for money. Invariably these girls (and they are usually girls in their early to mid-20's) will marry pretty much the first man who comes along. If he's American as well as rich then so much the better. Sometimes these relationships do work. But if the man's money runs out then so will his lady. It's worth remembering that Asian ladies are often very beautiful and age gracefully, so they don't usually have too many problems finding another partner once they're in a Western country. So while it's perfectly acceptable for an older man to date a younger woman, just don't end up being her green card mule.

If this doesn't discourage you from seeking a younger bride then your possibilities are probably to head to Russia, Thailand or the Philippines. Assuming you can get past the legions of scammers, then the Philippines is probably the best place to look for a much younger bride. Sign up to a site like Filipino Cupid and you'll be swamped with attention from 18 and 19 year old girls, whatever your own age. Have fun with these girls, but at the back of your mind just remember that it's really just all about the money.

Beautiful Mail Order Brides - Why Do They Seek Western Husbands?

If you're interested in second time around dating then you might like the idea of finding a wife from overseas. It doesn't usually take a lot of searching on the Internet to find mail order bride themed dating sites. There's plenty of these sites.

Whether you're interested in Russian, Asian, African or, increasingly Latin American brides, you'll usually be surprised at how many ladies there are on some of these sites. For example, the Chnlove Chinese mail order brides site claimes to list over 10,000 Chinese ladies on the site! And the free Asian dating website Date In Asia claims that it has over a million profiles. Sure many of the profiles are men, but it still gives you some idea of just how many Asian women are looking for foreign husbands.

So why do foreign ladies want to find Western husband? A few reasons include:

  • They're looking for money. This is often the number one reason why foreign ladies seek Western husbands, but it's not the only reason.
  • Christian ladies often find it hard to find partners in their own country, so they'll look overseas. This particularly applies to Chinese and Japanese ladies.
  • Divorced and separated ladies always find it more difficult to find love the second time around, as many men prefer to find previously unmarried brides.
  • Likewise, separated, divorced or unmarried ladies with young children often find it hard to find a partner.
  • Many ladies think they'll have a better life for them and their children in a Western country.
  • Some ladies are not considered beautiful by men in their own country, but to Western eyes they appear very pretty.
  • It's increasingly common to see highly educated ladies on foreign dating sites. Russian and Chinese ladies in particular often have a high level of education. Presumably they intimidate men in their own country, who would rather marry a housewife with average intelligence. If you can handle these ladies, they can often make great brides.
  • Ladies who have been seen dating foreign men are often avoided by men in their own country.
Obviously all ladies are different and each have their own reasons for choosing a Western husband. But if you are seeking a foreign bride for marriage then it's a good idea to work out exactly why a specific lady is seeking a foreign husband.

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Friday 6 May 2011

Meet Russian Women Free

If you're interested in finding a Russian bride, then where are the best places where you can meet Russian women for free?

Most Russian dating sites offer free trial subscriptions, so this is probably the best way to see if you like the idea of finding a Russian bride. Try Russian Euro, Ukraine Date or Elena's Models as three of the best sites. Be on the lookout for scam ladies on all of these sites though as they often slip through the net.

Free membership plans are great because once you register on the site you can generally use all the site's search facilities and check to see if you find many ladies who you'd be interested in having a relationship with. Generally sites allow you to maintain your free membership plan for as long as you like. Invariably you only need to pay for a subscription once you want to contact some of the ladies on the site.

As for free foreign dating sites, I'm not really a great fan of these. Free sites attract scammers as well as people who aren't really serious about having a long term relationship. On top of this, many of the free Russian dating sites are quite small and don't have that many lady profiles on them. The sites are also often poorly regulated and the sites don't take great care with your personal information. Finally, my biggest gripe with the free dating sites is that they often have very basic search facilties and there are not really much in the way of matchmaking features. While it's perfectly possible to meet some great Russian women on free dating sites, just be aware that it can be some serious needle in haystack business.

By the way, be very wary of sites that advertise that you can meet Russian women for free, as not all 100% free dating sites really are free!

Mail Order Japanese Brides

Many men like the idea of marrying Asian women. So what are your options if you're interested in seeking a mail order Japanese bride?

The first thing to note is that there isn't really any such thing as a Japanese mail order bride anymore. Japan is a very wealthy nation, and most of the women don't need to marry a man in order to have a good standard of living. There's also no particular shortage of good husband material in Japan - the average salaryman earns a decent wage these days.

However, if you're a Western man and you like the idea of finding a Japanese bride then the Internet can come to your assistance. Your first port of call is Japan Cupid. This is a great site for finding marriage minded Japanese ladies. However, I was a bit disappointed with this site. Maybe it was because:

  • I don't live in Japan, and most Japanese ladies don't want to live overseas.
  • I'm not American, and Japanese women tend to be much more interested in American men.
  • Japanese women don't seem to be as enthusiastic as marrying foreign men as Chinese ladies are.
  • I don't speak or write any Japanese.
  • Maybe I didn't put enough effort into contacting ladies - Japanese ladies tend to be quite shy so it's often better for the man to initiate contact with them.
If you don't like the idea of Japan Cupid then there are marriage agencies in Japan who will help you find a Japanese lady seeking a Western man for marriage. Try Meet Japan Lady or the Transpacific Marriage Agency.

Failing that, if you're interested in dating professional Asian ladies then Japan isn't your only choice. You could also try Korean Cupid for South Korean ladies. Or take a look at Chinese Cupid because there are tens of thousands of fantastic ladies on this site. Unless you're particularly attached to Japanese culture or the language, it's invariably better to seek a bride from China than it is from Japan.

Thursday 5 May 2011

Single Foreign Women

If you're interested in dating an exotic beauty, or you're interested in second time around dating, then you might consider dating single foreign women. So how easy is it to find single foreign ladies, and how do you go about meeting them?

The good news is that the world has no shortage of single foreign women looking for marriage. Many women find it hard to find a husband in their own country, particularly if:

  • They are divorced, or their husband has abandoned them and their children.
  • They are Christian in a country where Christianity isn't widespread (China and Japan come to mind here).
  • Men in their own country don't find them attractive (ideas of beauty vary widely between different cultures).
  • They are older than 30 in a country where men like to marry young girls.
  • They are alpha females that men in their own country don't always like, because they may have superior intellect or better jobs than they do.
  • Men in their own countries know they would make terrible wives (ha ha ha, you'll have to learn to avoid this type of foreign woman!)
So the good news is that there's no shortage of single foreign women available. Find them on the wide range of foreign and international dating sites. The bad news is that there are plenty of scammers on dating sites. There are also plenty of women who won't necessarily make good wives. Spotting them is often made complicated by the distance involved in long distance relationships, plus the significant language and cultural barriers. Despite this marriages between American men and foreign ladies tend to have a lower divorce rate than between an American man and woman.

As far as countries go, mail order bride type of wives tend to be found in Asia, Russia and, increasingly, from Latin America. Many men like the idea of finding a mail order bride who is happy to be a housewife. But there are increasing numbers of single professional ladies on foreign dating websites. Often they speak good English, have good careers and would be very insulted if you were to refer to them as being a mail order bride. If you want to find good quality single foreign women then take out a free trial membership of a site like Chinese Love Links, Latin American Cupid or Elena's Models.

Meet Latina Women

There are plenty of Asian dating websites, but what about Latin dating websites? Where can you go if you want to meet Latina women?

Thankfully there are an increasing number of Latin dating websites. More and more Latinas are seeking American or Canadian husbands, so you can set your sights pretty high on one of these dating sites. If you have your heart set on a Colombian girl, then head for a country specific dating site such as Colombian Cupid.

When I was searching for an Asian wife I wasn't 100% sure which country I wanted to look in. So I ended up paying for membership of several different country specific dating sites. If I was going to look for a Latin bride but I wasn't 100% sure which country was best then I would sign up to a site such as Latin American Cupid. This site has tens of thousands of sexy Latinas from all over Central and South America, as well as covering Latinas from Mexico and those already living in the USA and Canada. This site is just what you need for meeting Latina women. I like the fact that all the Cupid Media run sites like Latin American Cupid have some great search facilities, as well as good facilities for recording your favorite ladies. Trust me, if you sign up for Gold or Platinum membership of this site then you'll need some top notch facilities for keeping track of all the Latinas who will be emailing you!

And if you're unsure about the idea of visiting Colombia, Peru or another Central or Latin American country on your own then what about a romantic tour? Companies such as A Foreign Affair offer an increasing number of romantic tours of Central and Latin America. On one of these trips you'll get to meet dozens of beautiful Latinas, with translators on hand to help you out should your Spanish not be that great!

Wednesday 4 May 2011

Russian Mail Order Bride Scams

I'm mostly interested in Asian dating, but sometimes I venture over into the murky depths of Russian online dating.

It's clear to me that Russian mail order bride scams are extremely numerous. In fact increasing numbers of American men are getting so fed up with the scammers that they're abandoning Russia and Eastern Europe altogether. Latin brides are becoming increasingly popular, as are Chinese wives.

So far in my search for a Chinese wife I've been happy that most of the ladies I've talked to on foreign dating sites have been decent ladies. OK, so they might have personality issues or they might be looking for money more than love, but as men we can deal with these issues - they're not a lot different to what we face when seeking a bride in our own country.

In all my reading about Russian scams, it seems pretty much the same as the problems with the Asian dating scene. If you're going to look for a mail order bride in Russia or any other country, then bear these tips in mind:
  • Be wary of sites that charge you each time you send a letter to a lady. They like to make out that foreign ladies are rare, when in fact it's incredibly easy to meet Russian or Asian ladies looking for marriage to a Western man. So just avoid these sites.
  • Russian scammers are usually after money. Only the most brazen ladies directly ask for money. More often, they will tell you a sad story then expect you to offer to send money. Avoiding these scammers isn't that easy - they're numerous on Russian Euro, Ukraine Date and other Russian sites. But while you won't always avoid the scammers, you can avoid getting scammed! Just don't send any girl money - ever! Don't even send her money after you've visited her. A friend of mine might have the right idea - he's dated dozens of foreign ladies, and he NEVER buys them gifts until after marriage! Yes that's tough but it's a surefire way of avoiding all the scammers and most of the gold diggers, and just find a lady who wants to marry you for who you are, not how big your bank balance is.
  • Many scammers aren't Russian women or even women. Increasing numbers of African and Middle Eastern men are signing up to dating sites in order to scam gullible (usually American) people. If you learn some Russian language and culture then you can easily spot the non-Russians that are increasingly infiltrating online dating sites.

Tuesday 3 May 2011

Mail Order Grooms

Mail order brides are always popular with men, especially those interested in second time around dating. But what are the options for women seeking mail order grooms? Can you find marriage minded men the same way as men seek mail order brides?

There are plenty of dating websites where you can find marriage minded men. It's best to avoid those websites though that focus on the mail order brides market. These sites are quite numerous. They are mainly numerous because men usually end up paying more than women to join dating sites, so the mail order bride focussed website is the most profitable. Simple as that.

If you want to find a mail order groom then which countries are best to choose?

Men seeking foreign brides usually head for Eastern Europe or Russia, Asia and, increasingly, to Latin America.

Mail order grooms from Russia or Eastern Europe don't tend to be hugely popular. Life expectancy of men is low in these countries. There is also a shortage of men in many of these countries, so a good quality man will have his pick of some fabulous Russian beauties.

Asian men are increasingly numerous on Asian dating websites. Take a look at Japan Cupid, Korean Cupid or Chinese Cupid. These sites have increasing numbers of men on them. Of course many Chinese men dream of finding rich Western brides, as do so many Chinese brides dream of their prince on a white horse. If you want to find a wealthy Asian man who is fairly westernised then Japan or South Korea are options. Also the wealthy enclaves of Hong Kong and Singapore are worth a look as both have plenty of single eligible professional men. There are plenty of men in both territories who like the idea of finding a Western wife.

Mail Order Filipino Brides

When men start looking for a mail order bride they often choose to look in China, Thailand and the Philippines. What makes Filipino mail order brides so popular, and are they the best choice of Asian bride?

First of all the Filipino bride has a number of advantages for a Western man looking for an Asian bride:

  • Many Filipinos speak good English, and it's generally much more common to find a Filipino English speaker compared to a Chinese or Thai woman.
  • Approximately 10% of Filipinos work overseas. Many Filipinos train in careers that make it easier for them to find work overseas. While not every man wants their new Asian wife to go out and earn a living, not all women are happy to be stay at home housewives.
  • The Philippines is relatively easy to travel to, with regular flights to Manila and Cebu from Hong Kong and other international hubs. English is widely spoken, and it can be a less forbidding place to visit than the smaller Chinese cities.
  • Filipinos are often Catholic, so they are a good choice if you want to find an Asian bride who shares your Christianity.
  • Filipinos marry for life, and divorce is frowned upon. So they can often think about marriage a lot more seriously than Thai or Chinese women do.
  • Finally, there are a huge number of Filipino ladies on Asian dating websites, so if you're looking for a Filipino bride you'll be spoilt for choice.
Find out more about Filipino mail order brides on the Asian dating sites guide.