Filipina Kisses - is it a Good Filipino Dating Site?

Filipina Kisses is a wildly popular Filipina dating site. But how does it compare to its competition? Let's have a little look...

First of all Filipina Kisses is very popular. I find this is a little strange as the site design is a total shambles. But on the plus side, the membership fee is fairly reasonable, and it's not one of those dubious letter writing sites. It's also one of the few sites to make it easy to find Filipino ladyboys.

• DateInAsia is a free Asian dating site. This site has a reasonable reputation amongst men who are looking for Filipinas to date. On the downside, the site has a very basic search facility. It's maybe a good site for the gentleman with a lot of time on his hands.
• Filipina Heart is a nice site in terms of ease of use and features. This is my preferred Filipina dating site. The downside is that there are only Filipinas on this site, so if you also wanted to chat to Thai girls then you'd have to take out a separate subscription to the ThaiLoveLink sister site of Filipina Heart.
• Cherry Blossoms is a reasonably priced site. The good thing about this one is that there are also Thai and Chinese ladies on the site, so you can pay a single subscription fee and talk to ladies from a wide range of Asian countries. Cherry Blossoms has a slightly better site design than Filipina Kisses, but that's not saying much really.

Finally the good news is that choose any of these sites and you'll be swamped with interest from cute Filipinas looking for husbands!

Avoiding Terrible Thai Love Links Scams

Here's an article about Thai Love Link scams. Thai Love Links is a popular Thai dating site run by Cupid Media. I've not used Thai Love Links as much as I have its sister sites Japan Cupid, Chinese Cupid and Filipina Heart. But the sites are all pretty much the same.

Sadly Thai dating sites have a bit of a repuation for scam ladies. Finding an honest Thai bride isn't that easy, especially if you use a dating site rather than a marriage agency. My top tips for avoiding the many scammers and dubious ladies on the Cupid Media sites are:

Look for a lady with a proper day job, not one who described her self as being self employed or having a home business.
Avoid ladies with hidden profiles or no any photos in their profile.
Avoid ladies who smoke or who have tattoos.
Avoid ladies who give you their email address in their first email to you then profess their dying love for you.
Be wary of ladies who do things out of the ordinary, like suggest you chat on another site.

Finally the obvious thing is to never send money to anyone you meet on Thai Love Links or any other site.

More DateInAsia Timewasting

I'm looking for a Chinese wife so recently I signed up to the DateInAsia free Asian dating site. I've had a couple more contacts. Again neither of the ladies were particularly suitable. One didn't have a photo, the other was only 22 and just wanted to chat. I want to find a wife. I have no interest in chatting.

Really I should spend an evening browsing the site in search of Chinese ladies to chat to. But why should I? The site is basically rubbish. There are too many timewaster ladies. There are too many dubious ladies. And the site has very basic facilities for storing your favorites while you think about them.

No, I'm sticking with Chinese Cupid. It cost around $165 to join for a whole year. There are great facilities for saving details of your favorite Chinese ladies. You can even put little notes next to their photos so you can remind yourself of why you liked them, and whether you think they're good wife material.

If you're serious about finding a good quality Asian wife then you'll need these types of logistics. To give you an example I've currently got 39 ladies on my favorites list. That's actually cut down from 58 I had at one stage. And that's actually quite a low number because I'm planning to visit a specific city and I have absolutely no interest in ladies who are emailing me from other parts of China (focus is crucial in this game).

How Much Money Does an American Man Need to Get a Chinese Wife?

Interested in Chinese mail order brides but not sure if you can afford it? It's best to do some math before you fall in love with a beautiful Chinese lady on a site like Chinese Kisses.

So let me give you a ballpark figure. Finding a Chinese wife from China will cost around $10,000. This includes:

• Dating site or marriage agency fees.
• Travelling to meet her (and factoring in the fact that the first lady you visit might not be a suitable bride for you).
• Engagement and marriage.
• Bringing her back to live with you in the states.

Additional costs will of course arise after marriage. Most (all?) Chinese people attach a great importance to money and wealth. If you don't have a lot of cash, then your new bride may not stick around. Make sure you can support her after you get married! This will include at least one trip back to China each year so she can visit her family.

Chinese ladies who don't speak English can find it exceedingly hard to find employment in the USA after marriage. So you'll have to support her for a long time. She might be able to get a cleaning job or something. But a career lady who had a good career back in China won't find this exactly fulfilling.

So if you're a man of modest means, then think carefully about your Chinese wife idea and make sure you really can afford it. As with everything in life, you have to be realistic about your dreams.

• Read more Chinese dating articles at the Asian Dating Sites Guide.

Scammers Scammers Everywhere

So I've spent a few hours this morning reading about dating site scams on Romance Scam.com. This is an interesting, and also disturbing site. The main problem is that dating site scammers seem to be operating on just about every dating site there is. If you thought the problem was mainly affecting foreign dating sites (especially mail order bride themed sites) then you'd be wrong. In fact, eHarmony is getting a poor reputation for the number of scammers operating on that site. If you thought eHarmony was safe and secure, then you might want to so some Googling.

This certainly computes with what I've heard from other sources. One thing I've learnt is that both men and women are equally likely to be scammed. Women in particular are very susceptible to West African dating site scammers from Ghana and Nigeria. They'll often pose as good looking American men in order to lure in their victims. There's plenty of evidence that they steal photos from other dating sites, choosing the photos of the best looking men on whichever site they're looking at. So always be careful when uploading photos of yourself to a dating site. Only upload your own photos to sites that employ watermarking of the photos, so they're not so easy to steal.

So whether you're seeking a Russian bride, an Asian bride or a partner from your own town, be vigilant! The good news is that with experience you can learn to spot the majority of the scammers, especially the money scammers. But if you're contemplating online dating, then you really need to read, read and read until you know how to spot the scammers.

DateInAsia - First Impressions

So I signed up to DateInAsia yesterday. DateInAsia is a 100% free Asian dating site. There are many free Asian dating sites, but DateInAsia is by far the most popular. The site claims to have over one million members. How many are active members is not known however.

First impressions were quite favourable. As a security check when you sign up your email address is verified. You also have to supply a mobile phone number. The site then sends out a SMS message to your mobile phone so that the site can verify that you're not setting up a duplicate profile or anything. Does this prevent scammers from using the site? It's probably not hugely effective given that a SIM card is pretty cheap. A professional scammer won't be deterred either - they'll simply add the mobile phone to their expenses of running their business. One cheeky tactic of many scammers is to ask their male victims for money so they can buy a mobile phone. So effectively scam victim #1 is paying the scammer to set up their fake profile so that they can scam victim #2.

So far so good. But unfortunately my impressions of DateInAsia went downhill after that. The site is very basic. I mean VERY basic. There are minimal search facilities. And there is nothing like the My Matches feature of sites like Chinese Love Links. The search facility is stupendously basic. You can really only search on location and age. Want to find a Chinese lady who speaks Japanese and wears glasses? Don't bother with DateInAsia, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. But finding her on Chinese Love Links would be a piece of cake.

But for me the killer problem with DateInAsia has been the lack of interest in my profile. I've booked my trip to Asia. I'm not one of the majority of male members of the site who has no intention of ever actually visiting the ladies. I'm compiling my list of ladies to visit. Yet the only thing on the site is tumbleweed. By comparison I get 3-4 messages a day on Chinese Love Links. And on Filipina Cupid I had to hide my profile as I was swamped with admirers, and that was just on the free membership plan!

So DateInAsia is pretty much a waste of time unless you have time on your hands. A lot of time!

Chinese Dating Site Wars and Funny Goings Ons...

So I started the Asian Dating Sites Guide back in August 2010. I'd had a terrible time with my Chinese lady, but that's another story altogether. What upset me just as much was that I really felt like I was being taken for a ride on the Chinese dating site I was using (Chnlove). I was paying a lot of money to send emails to and from ladies. I kept getting contacted by ladies way younger than I wanted to meet. Yes this happens on all dating sites but when you have to pay over $5 a time to email them it's obviously a trap to lure you into wasting your hard earned cash.

The Asian Dating Sites Guide is starting to get some interesting feedback from dating site members. Remember folks, it's us MEN who pay for online dating - most sites allow ladies to join free of charge. So it's us MEN who should be setting the agenda here.

So recently I got a really long comment on the site and decided to publish it here. It's an interesting read for anyone thinking of using an Asian dating site. Sadly I've heard this story time and time again.

Interestingly, within 24 hours of publishing the comment, somebody has lept to Chnlove's defence. Is it Chnlove defending their own site? I've no easy way of telling. The comment was posted from a network in the US. But the English looks Chinese-like. Other dating review sites have a long history of seeing positive and negative comments, so nothing would surprise me.

So here's the honest truth about Chnlove. I met a lady on the site. She was real. I visited her in China. She was great. Our relationship did not work out. No fault of Chnlove - it happens. But I spent hundreds of dollars on that site. I could have joined Chinese Love Links or Cherry Blossoms for around $150 for an annual membership. And for that I could have chatted to hundreds or even thousands of women. I could even have joined DateInAsia and chatted to Chinese girls for free. Sure there are scammers on these sites. But chat to enough ladies and you'll easily be able to sort them into different categories of lady. On Chinese Love Links I see the same types of lady time and time again. Likely scammer. Narcissist. Time waster. Girl looking for Mr 100%. Green card seeker. Blah blah blah.

To be fair, I was also impressed with Chnlove support. They were always quick to respond to my questions. The problem lies in China itself. The marriage agencies that Chnlove relies on to supply the lady profiles don't have a good reputation. There is abundant proof of blatant dishonest activity going on. Yet Chnlove appear to take no action against the agencies. The problem is that it's not really in their interests to do so. The more letters an agency sends through Chnlove, the more money that Chnlove make. Simple as that. So don't expect to see anything change anytime soon.

Anyway, if you don't like Chnlove, vote with your feet. Use one of the other Asian dating sites.